tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post1104150841013514126..comments2023-09-18T08:07:15.353-04:00Comments on Aidan, Baby of Mine: On HopeEmilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587287197734518952noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-65539663345421521862011-05-27T21:05:49.001-04:002011-05-27T21:05:49.001-04:00Hope finds its way back in. Trite but true, time i...Hope finds its way back in. Trite but true, time is the real healer.<br />A good outcome helps.<br />I will say this as I wish someone had said it to me: you will survive. <br />I hope you and acorn stay well.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-76394676262803388642011-05-26T12:34:51.648-04:002011-05-26T12:34:51.648-04:00Still hoping for you EVERY day ... even after our ...Still hoping for you EVERY day ... even after our 'rainbow' died somehow we just kept going .. you do, the other choices are just too much. I hope you don't have to experience it and you get to bring Acorn home with you and one day - years from now this will all be a distant memmory...Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03960284624015467516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-76397939326426097332011-05-25T22:44:50.640-04:002011-05-25T22:44:50.640-04:00Quite awhile ago I talked to a woman who has lost ...Quite awhile ago I talked to a woman who has lost four babies and asked her how she was able to go on and keep trying. Her answer really spoke to me: Because as hard as it is to keep trying and hoping, it's even harder to give up hope.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316978989809741699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-16390059288451649912011-05-25T20:44:23.269-04:002011-05-25T20:44:23.269-04:00Oh, Emily. I so wish I could give you an answer. I...Oh, Emily. I so wish I could give you an answer. I don't know how to balance being realistic and being hopeful. But part of me feels like if you don't have that hope, why bother? If you had no hope, you would have given up long ago. After my water broke, I and everyone else thought that I'd be one of those small percentages that made it through. I was somehow blindsided when it didn't pan out that way, even though I knew realistically it was a possibility. But I don't think I could have survived that time between water breaking and going into labor if I didn't think there was a chance. I don't know what I'm trying to say here. Maybe that you have to have hope, because that's all you have??? You have to hang onto that, because Acorn needs it and because you need it. I think. I don't know. Ugh. I hate this. I hate this for you.Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14724675337980390322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-44796130797725400392011-05-25T20:37:32.322-04:002011-05-25T20:37:32.322-04:00I'm none the wiser. I have no advice, just lis...I'm none the wiser. I have no advice, just listening. Trying to understand. Hating how you have to go through this twice. While we've all had those blissful pregnancy feelings stripped from us (as BLMs) forever, the least you could have would be making your own lunch or walking to get the mail. Geesh. I'm so sorry. I sure hope that little baby is okay and he/she lives. I think everyone would wish that. Thinking about you and that little one a lot.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-61875460206034609962011-05-25T15:48:35.542-04:002011-05-25T15:48:35.542-04:00I wish so much for you that you didn't have to...I wish so much for you that you didn't have to endure any of this. If I could make this all go away for you, I would. I know that you wish you would just have a normal pregnancy, too. Hopefully at the end of all of this you have a perfectly healthy baby and that is your "normal".<br /><br />As for "hope" and how you get it back? I know my situation wasn't/isn't the same as yours but I got to the point after so much heartbreak and so much pain that I didn't have anything else left but to have hope. Some days I'm still beyond terrified but I'm usually able to somehow push it to the back of my mind because I'm so damn tired of being in pain. Again though, my situation is completely different than yours. (((HUGS)))<br /><br />From your posts, it sounds like you have glimmers of hope. I just think that it's tough right now because you're in limbo. You don't know what emotions to experience. Not knowing where you're headed makes it so much more difficult to cope.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08507118457609696378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-49709370305943757952011-05-25T11:45:59.226-04:002011-05-25T11:45:59.226-04:00I don't know how we manage to hope again after...I don't know how we manage to hope again after many failures, but somehow we do. Our brain is hard wired for hope I think, it helps with survival, otherwise we would just lie down and perish of simple lack of will to live. If things don't work out, you will go on living, your brain will guide you. Somehow it just will. Rather be in the moment now, love what you can, and let the rest go. Your situation is incredibly hard. All you can do is survive it the best you can.MrsHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18277631338883839373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-39836345944178148892011-05-25T01:23:52.180-04:002011-05-25T01:23:52.180-04:00Noelle said it all so beautifully. I have hope for...Noelle said it all so beautifully. I have hope for you and for Acorn.. what else is there? I wish that so many of us could have that normal pregnancy we crave. With all of my health/blood issues I know that is long gone.. but still I long for it.. for all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-176061010619490822.post-73641335091236791582011-05-25T00:46:46.107-04:002011-05-25T00:46:46.107-04:00I missed not planning a shower. I hated buying tin...I missed not planning a shower. I hated buying tiny doll clothes to dress her in just in case she died. I missed the choice as to how to have a baby. And I was also hopeful that I wouldn't be able to hold her, because that would mean that she was being shipped down to the NICU.<br /><br />I am hoping so hard for you (and I am praying too, although I know that you are not religious). When I had her, and they pulled her out and whisked her to the next room, they came in and asked who had the long toes. It was the happiest moment of my life. It wasn't normal and I missed out on a lot, but I got to see a miracle.<br /><br />I pray that you get to see that miracle too. Even though I still get jealous at talk of normal childbirth or medicated or pumping or nursing (heck-even bottle feeding. She has a g-tube now), I feel that I am even luckier than women who had normal pregnancies because I got to see such a miracle. They did too, but mine was really a miracle. I pray that yours will be too.Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217779025743115019noreply@blogger.com